Relating well with a person

Naran

Why do you like somebody? It is because he or she gives you happiness.

• I release my desire to seek happiness through him.

What is actually happening inside me?

The person might change. You could not like him then. If you do not get happiness because of the change in him then you do not want him to change.

• Here, desire to control is operating. Release that.

I notice, now I have a desire to seek happiness through that person. Thus, everything is conditional, which is our (human) nature.

Ask the question, ‘What is the pleasure or pain that I operate from?’

Desire to control or change is always with us.

As long desire to control is operating, harmony cannot be established as it is compromised. Therefore, change your desire to control.

• I release my desire to change him.
• I release my anger about him.

Even if he says good things, you reject it for you do not want his approval (as you dislike him).

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Everybody wants love

Grace

I am making much progress on receiving love by doing EFT for all the contributing factors to my resistance to receiving love and releasing my desire for love. Persistence was the key.

Now, I’m noticing all the ways in which people need love and care. I think I was blind to it before.

The problem now is either I do not know how to provide love or I find that I am very reluctant to give it.

For example, telling my friend something nice about them. I really don’t feel like it is necessary but I see people need affirmation.

Please help me become better at giving love in a way my close friends and relatives can receive.  I am also VERY reluctant to say “I love you.”

Pami

I too am facing same thing, with some experiences in life.

I feel reluctant to say I LOVE YOU and feel something odd or negative in showing love. I was exactly opposite.

Naran

Everybody wants love and affection.

We express that through our expression and behavior only.

Every action of ours is aimed at that only.

Love is spontaneous when it is divine.

When you say that people expect a word of appreciation, give it.

If you view, it is not necessary, then don’t think about it.

But if you are concerned about it, then you also want approval from others.

No More Dis-Harmony

SARADA

Please explain how to do rule exercise

Naran

Let us say you want to achieve harmony in your life.

The first step is to release all the hurdles that are inside you, which prevent s you from creating harmony.

Affirm the following statements as many times as possible, which helps you to remove disharmony from your life. Without removing it, you cannot create harmony in your relationships:

I release any memory that prevents my harmony

I release every thought that prevents my harmony

I release my memory of blaming that prevents my harmony

I release the memory, which prevents my getting of love and affection

I release the thought that I lack love and affection

I release my memories of reject and disapproval

I release all my desires for approval

I release my memory of my anger to be in a state of love

I release my thought of blaming to be in a state of love and peace

I release the memory that I am misunderstood

I release the thought that I am misunderstood

I release the memory of my being criticized

I release the thought that I am criticized

I release the memory of attracting unkind, unloving people

I release the thought I am with unloving people

I release the memory that keeps me (in) hostility

I release every memory that prevents my state of love

I release the thought that prevents my state of love

After successfully completing the first step, do the second step which will help you to create harmony:  https://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/