I live with my girlfriend. She has a very jealous nature and a very bad temper. She argues over tiny things, making it a big deal. I keep quite thinking to cool it down so as to not to aggravate the situation.
But, then she doesn’t talks to me for 4 days. Then she acts as if nothing happened and blames me for the entire thing.
When we are in good terms it feels like heaven. I would really appreciate if we can avoid this and get some help from you.
Chant “CHICORY, HOLLY, TOGETHER DIVINE”
Temper tantrums: “She argues over tiny things”; emotional blackmailing: she doesn’t talk to me for 4 days: CHICORY
For over-sensitivity and jealousy: HOLLY
For harmony: TOGETHER DIVINE
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When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.
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