It’s a very wonderful article – “Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others”: http://wp.me/ptUDl-6A.
How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?
Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?
Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset? They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!
How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?
In any healing, one should think about oneself only.
One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.
Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.
How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?
Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.
What do I want? I want harmony in the family.
How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?
Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?
How can I get harmony?
How will I change to get harmony?
Why can’t I solve it?
How could I make this harmony possible?
What is required to have harmony?
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!
Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?
Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?
Pls help me to understand sending love means what?
Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.
Please explain how to do rule exercise
Let us say you want to achieve harmony in your life.
The first step is to release all the hurdles that are inside you, which prevent s you from creating harmony.
Affirm the following statements as many times as possible, which helps you to remove disharmony from your life. Without removing it, you cannot create harmony in your relationships:
I release any memory that prevents my harmony
I release every thought that prevents my harmony
I release my memory of blaming that prevents my harmony
I release the memory, which prevents my getting of love and affection
I release the thought that I lack love and affection
I release my memories of reject and disapproval
I release all my desires for approval
I release my memory of my anger to be in a state of love
I release my thought of blaming to be in a state of love and peace
I release the memory that I am misunderstood
I release the thought that I am misunderstood
I release the memory of my being criticized
I release the thought that I am criticized
I release the memory of attracting unkind, unloving people
I release the thought I am with unloving people
I release the memory that keeps me (in) hostility
I release every memory that prevents my state of love
I release the thought that prevents my state of love
After successfully completing the first step, do the second step which will help you to create harmony: https://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/