Pls help me to guide through this situation, after my last relationship ended with very bad manner. But, it’s been two years now. I was able to come out of sadness and ready to move on, and feel good about myself.
Finally, I started feeling the same for this I guy I knew. I really like him and would like to build a loving trustworthy relationship with him.
There is always something goes wrong which is not making me connect to right guy. I have so much fear in my heart that things not going to come the way I want with him.
Chant the Bach Flower Remedies, “MIMULUS, GENTIAN, HORNBEAM”
In addition, chant separately, “LALITHAM SADHASHIVAM”
To come out of sadness: GENTIAN and HORNBEAM
For fear: MIMULUS (as the saying goes, ‘once bitten twice shy’)
Connect to a right partner: LALITHAM SADHASHIVAM
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When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.
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