My fiancé’s anger destroys my patience and love. He is comparing me with the others. Really I want peace regarding my relationship. I want his love, caring and his urge to call me by his own.
Sometimes, I feel god give me some magical key to handle him and he starts to love me, my family and respect all of us.
Tap with the following statement 3 times on each point: “Even though I am frustrated, I find the magical key to handle him”.
Do it daily and as many times as possible.
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How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?
Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?
Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset? They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!
How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?
In any healing, one should think about oneself only.
One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.
Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.
How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?
Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.
What do I want? I want harmony in the family.
How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?
Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?
How can I get harmony?
How will I change to get harmony?
Why can’t I solve it?
How could I make this harmony possible?
What is required to have harmony?
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!
Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?
Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?
Pls help me to understand sending love means what?
Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.
I am married for 26 years and my husband is having illicit relationships with women all these years. My relatives and friends wanted me to divorce. But somehow I could never do it.
Now, we have three grown up kids and he continues this way. Please give me a mantra where I can save my husband from these women and live a God-fearing life.
Download a picture of black vulture and paste his name or photo on it. This will rectify the person who philanders with other girls.
Daily chant “CORAL, RESTORE MAGNANIMITY TINY SWEET BE”
CORAL for infatuation and temptation for extra-sensory pleasures
Reclaim (RESTORE) the lost love in MAGNANIMITY by shedding the ego (BE TINY) to love with SWEETNESS in the heart
Is there is any mantra by which we can reunite two people by calming down their anger?
My sis-in-law and my father are having a terrible problem. They don’t want to listen about each other. Due to that the whole family is unable to speak to them. But I want to solve this problem.
On the contrary I don’t say both of them are ready to leave their ego because they don’t like to listen to anyone to shed their anger and ego for each of them.
So pls give me some mantra so that I can chant on behalf of both of them and reunite them miraculously.
Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”
It is light pink in color. For menopause problems Kunzite is very useful. It will teach a person love and affection.
Kunzite is anther gem remedy which is very helpful in restoring the harmony in the family. The rose quartz removes the hurt feelings in the house. Because of the hurt one becomes terribly angry and in rage. For that situation of anger and rage Kunzite is very useful. It is also very effective for family disputes.
It teaches intimate love.
Green Sapphire also promotes fidelity. Especially it works well in the relationship because in a relationship only fidelity is important. It is also good in partnership driven business.
If one wants his workers to be loyal with him he should take Green Sapphire.
For autistic children Nine Gems can be given as a background remedy. The heart is longing for love. Even though the love is there, they cannot feel it and they behave in an uncontrolled manner. For such persons give Blue Sapphire for restriction of the behaviour and after two hours give Nine Gems.
Fever does not come down means then you can give Nine Gems.
Ruby must be used very carefully. In a family Ruby should not come because the key word is – break. Ruby should not be worn in the body permanently. Once in a while if you wear it is ok.
This constant depression is taking a toll on me :(. So, when I get even a straw of positivity from you it makes me feel better.
No amount of telling my mind anything helps. It continues to feel sad about everything that is going wrong, in parallel.
No house, no promotion, no love. And finally all the hard work only gets bad feedback.
Behind sadness, there is expectation to be loved; behind this expectation, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment or fear of intimacy is there.
The fear and expectation or desiring operate in opposite directions, and produce the sadness feeling.
This fear denies everything you desire.
Chant this and write this:
- “I release that part, which wants to be loved”
- “I release that part, which activates fear of rejection”
- “I align with that part, which gives love unconditionally.”
- “I align with that part, which feels secured
I am making much progress on receiving love by doing EFT for all the contributing factors to my resistance to receiving love and releasing my desire for love. Persistence was the key.
Now, I’m noticing all the ways in which people need love and care. I think I was blind to it before.
The problem now is either I do not know how to provide love or I find that I am very reluctant to give it.
For example, telling my friend something nice about them. I really don’t feel like it is necessary but I see people need affirmation.
Please help me become better at giving love in a way my close friends and relatives can receive. I am also VERY reluctant to say “I love you.”
I too am facing same thing, with some experiences in life.
I feel reluctant to say I LOVE YOU and feel something odd or negative in showing love. I was exactly opposite.
Everybody wants love and affection.
We express that through our expression and behavior only.
Every action of ours is aimed at that only.
Love is spontaneous when it is divine.
When you say that people expect a word of appreciation, give it.
If you view, it is not necessary, then don’t think about it.
But if you are concerned about it, then you also want approval from others.
When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.