Have seen good difference with chanting

Sal

I met a guy on matrimonial site and since then we have become good friends.  He is unable to feel any emotions for anybody.

As what I understand, he had to take care of his family financially from an early age. His parents did not have a good marriage and he saw a lot of fights between them.

He loved only one girl but she used him and got married and he is unable to forget her and move on. He likes me but because the way he feels, he does not think he will ever marry.

Pls let me know how I can do anything on his behalf.

Naran

Help yourself.

Chant “I release my desire to change anybody”.

In addition, chant, “I OPEN to the LOVE, BEAUTY, GRACE of the DIVINE”.

Sal (after two weeks)

Thank you. I have seen good difference with my chanting. The person has become more open for accepting new.

Also, I feel better myself and happy.

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Sending Love

MT

It’s a very wonderful article – “Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others”:  http://wp.me/ptUDl-6A.

How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?

Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?

Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset?  They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!

How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?

Naran

In any healing, one should think about oneself only.

One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.

Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.

How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?

Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.

What do I want? I want harmony in the family.

How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?

Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?

How can I get harmony?

How will I change to get harmony?

Why can’t I solve it?

How could I make this harmony possible?

What is required to have harmony?

MT
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!

Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?

Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?

Pls help me to understand sending love means what?

Naran

Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.

Connect to the right partner

JES K

Pls help me to guide through this situation, after my last relationship ended with very bad manner. But, it’s been two years now. I was able to come out of sadness and ready to move on, and feel good about myself.

Finally, I started feeling the same for this I guy I knew. I really like him and would like to build a loving trustworthy relationship with him.

There is always something goes wrong which is not making me connect to right guy. I have so much fear in my heart that things not going to come the way I want with him.

Naran

Chant the Bach Flower Remedies, “MIMULUS, GENTIAN, HORNBEAM”

In addition, chant separately, “LALITHAM SADHASHIVAM”

Explanation

To come out of sadness: GENTIAN and HORNBEAM

For fear: MIMULUS (as the saying goes, ‘once bitten twice shy’)

Connect to a right partner: LALITHAM SADHASHIVAM

It feels like hell

Jayant Sing

I live with my girlfriend. She has a very jealous nature and a very bad temper. She argues over tiny things, making it a big deal. I keep quite thinking to cool it down so as to not to aggravate the situation.

But, then she doesn’t talks to me for 4 days. Then she acts as if nothing happened and blames me for the entire thing.

When we are in good terms it feels like heaven. I would really appreciate if we can avoid this and get some help from you.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, HOLLY, TOGETHER DIVINE”

Explanation

Temper tantrums: “She argues over tiny things”; emotional blackmailing: she doesn’t talk to me for 4 days: CHICORY

For over-sensitivity and jealousy: HOLLY

For harmony: TOGETHER DIVINE

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Love, Affection and Harmony

Kunzite

It is light pink in color. For menopause problems Kunzite is very useful. It will teach a person love and affection.

Family harmony

Kunzite is anther gem remedy which is very helpful in restoring the harmony in the family. The rose quartz removes the hurt feelings in the house. Because of the hurt one becomes terribly angry and in rage. For that situation of anger and rage Kunzite is very useful. It is also very effective for family disputes.

Pink Tourmaline

It teaches intimate love.

Green Sapphire

Green Sapphire also promotes fidelity. Especially it works well in the relationship because in a relationship only fidelity is important. It is also good in partnership driven business.

If one wants his workers to be loyal with him he should take Green Sapphire.

Nine Gems

For autistic children Nine Gems can be given as a background remedy. The heart is longing for love. Even though the love is there, they cannot feel it and they behave in an uncontrolled manner. For such persons give Blue Sapphire for restriction of the behaviour and after two hours give Nine Gems.

Fever does not come down means then you can give Nine Gems.

Ruby

Ruby must be used very carefully. In a family Ruby should not come because the key word is – break. Ruby should not be worn in the body permanently. Once in a while if you wear it is ok.

Relating well with a person

Naran

Why do you like somebody? It is because he or she gives you happiness.

• I release my desire to seek happiness through him.

What is actually happening inside me?

The person might change. You could not like him then. If you do not get happiness because of the change in him then you do not want him to change.

• Here, desire to control is operating. Release that.

I notice, now I have a desire to seek happiness through that person. Thus, everything is conditional, which is our (human) nature.

Ask the question, ‘What is the pleasure or pain that I operate from?’

Desire to control or change is always with us.

As long desire to control is operating, harmony cannot be established as it is compromised. Therefore, change your desire to control.

• I release my desire to change him.
• I release my anger about him.

Even if he says good things, you reject it for you do not want his approval (as you dislike him).

Don’t try to correct others

Rosie

I’m a kind of assertive person, childish and pure at heart. But everyone mistakes my words and treats me as a rude/harsh person.

I know I’m a very kind at heart and speak like that for others benefit only. If “my people” are doing something wrong then I go and tell them and ask them to change. However, they understand it wrongly.

Please tell me how to get many ‘good’ friends, attract everyone who surrounds me, and make others understand who I’m really.

Naran

Don’t try to correct others.

Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE” as many times as possible

How to maintain your level of intimacy

When can you get what you want in a relationship?

All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.

In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.

When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get.  There will not be any dejection.

How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?

When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.

Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.

Then like starts yielding to dislike.

However, this is not expressed but suppressed.  This continues until it becomes resentment.

How you destroy the foundation of love?

You become angry.

Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.

Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.

You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.

Verbally you attack.

Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.

Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.

Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.

Resolving these destructive tendencies

If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

• AGRIMONY for open communication
• BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
• WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
• WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
• CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
• HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
• CHICORY to give and not to force one

Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.

How can I manage without him?

Lesson: Our life is repeated every 12/18/30 years

Radha

I am a widow and have a son who is studying in college. I am managing the business started by my husband, without any help from relatives and friends.

However, as we are expanding our business for the last six months, I sought the help of my elder brother, who graciously offered his hand for help.

Unfortunately, last two weeks, he is affected by some serious illness and he is in sick-bed. I don’t know how I am going to manage without him?

Naran

Have you ever been in this type of situation before, where you used the same words, “How I am going to manage without him?”

Radha

Yes I did, when my husband passed away 12 years back. He was the sole runner of our family business, while I was looking after the home affairs.

Naran

Then what happened.

Radha

I took over the business and to everybody’s surprise, including me, I did manage successfully.

Naran

In the same way, you will be able to manage without your brother. I am not suggesting that you have to do away with your brother.

You heal the incidents happened 12 years back and make your feelings, thoughts, beliefs whole and complete.

1. Heal your husband by putting his memories – unfulfilled desires and expectations, Illness, etc.
2. Heal his death as mentioned in the past-life-healing manual.
3. Heal all your money affairs – follow the abundance steps.
4. As an attitude of gratitude, heal the illness of your brother, by putting his illness in the triangle.

Good Luck in your new business ventures!!!