Sending Love

MT

It’s a very wonderful article – “Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others”:  http://wp.me/ptUDl-6A.

How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?

Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?

Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset?  They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!

How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?

Naran

In any healing, one should think about oneself only.

One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.

Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.

How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?

Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.

What do I want? I want harmony in the family.

How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?

Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?

How can I get harmony?

How will I change to get harmony?

Why can’t I solve it?

How could I make this harmony possible?

What is required to have harmony?

MT
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!

Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?

Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?

Pls help me to understand sending love means what?

Naran

Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.

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It feels like hell

Jayant Sing

I live with my girlfriend. She has a very jealous nature and a very bad temper. She argues over tiny things, making it a big deal. I keep quite thinking to cool it down so as to not to aggravate the situation.

But, then she doesn’t talks to me for 4 days. Then she acts as if nothing happened and blames me for the entire thing.

When we are in good terms it feels like heaven. I would really appreciate if we can avoid this and get some help from you.

Naran

Chant “CHICORY, HOLLY, TOGETHER DIVINE”

Explanation

Temper tantrums: “She argues over tiny things”; emotional blackmailing: she doesn’t talk to me for 4 days: CHICORY

For over-sensitivity and jealousy: HOLLY

For harmony: TOGETHER DIVINE

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Love, Affection and Harmony

Kunzite

It is light pink in color. For menopause problems Kunzite is very useful. It will teach a person love and affection.

Family harmony

Kunzite is anther gem remedy which is very helpful in restoring the harmony in the family. The rose quartz removes the hurt feelings in the house. Because of the hurt one becomes terribly angry and in rage. For that situation of anger and rage Kunzite is very useful. It is also very effective for family disputes.

Pink Tourmaline

It teaches intimate love.

Green Sapphire

Green Sapphire also promotes fidelity. Especially it works well in the relationship because in a relationship only fidelity is important. It is also good in partnership driven business.

If one wants his workers to be loyal with him he should take Green Sapphire.

Nine Gems

For autistic children Nine Gems can be given as a background remedy. The heart is longing for love. Even though the love is there, they cannot feel it and they behave in an uncontrolled manner. For such persons give Blue Sapphire for restriction of the behaviour and after two hours give Nine Gems.

Fever does not come down means then you can give Nine Gems.

Ruby

Ruby must be used very carefully. In a family Ruby should not come because the key word is – break. Ruby should not be worn in the body permanently. Once in a while if you wear it is ok.

Relating well with a person

Naran

Why do you like somebody? It is because he or she gives you happiness.

• I release my desire to seek happiness through him.

What is actually happening inside me?

The person might change. You could not like him then. If you do not get happiness because of the change in him then you do not want him to change.

• Here, desire to control is operating. Release that.

I notice, now I have a desire to seek happiness through that person. Thus, everything is conditional, which is our (human) nature.

Ask the question, ‘What is the pleasure or pain that I operate from?’

Desire to control or change is always with us.

As long desire to control is operating, harmony cannot be established as it is compromised. Therefore, change your desire to control.

• I release my desire to change him.
• I release my anger about him.

Even if he says good things, you reject it for you do not want his approval (as you dislike him).

How to maintain your level of intimacy

When can you get what you want in a relationship?

All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.

In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.

When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get.  There will not be any dejection.

How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?

When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.

Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.

Then like starts yielding to dislike.

However, this is not expressed but suppressed.  This continues until it becomes resentment.

How you destroy the foundation of love?

You become angry.

Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.

Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.

You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.

Verbally you attack.

Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.

Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.

Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.

Resolving these destructive tendencies

If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

• AGRIMONY for open communication
• BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
• WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
• WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
• CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
• HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
• CHICORY to give and not to force one

Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.

No More Dis-Harmony

SARADA

Please explain how to do rule exercise

Naran

Let us say you want to achieve harmony in your life.

The first step is to release all the hurdles that are inside you, which prevent s you from creating harmony.

Affirm the following statements as many times as possible, which helps you to remove disharmony from your life. Without removing it, you cannot create harmony in your relationships:

I release any memory that prevents my harmony

I release every thought that prevents my harmony

I release my memory of blaming that prevents my harmony

I release the memory, which prevents my getting of love and affection

I release the thought that I lack love and affection

I release my memories of reject and disapproval

I release all my desires for approval

I release my memory of my anger to be in a state of love

I release my thought of blaming to be in a state of love and peace

I release the memory that I am misunderstood

I release the thought that I am misunderstood

I release the memory of my being criticized

I release the thought that I am criticized

I release the memory of attracting unkind, unloving people

I release the thought I am with unloving people

I release the memory that keeps me (in) hostility

I release every memory that prevents my state of love

I release the thought that prevents my state of love

After successfully completing the first step, do the second step which will help you to create harmony:  https://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/

 

Have a Ball (of Love)

Referring the post: http://marriagemantri.wordpress.com/2013/04/03/husband-says-he-will-never-come-back/

Grace

Why do things such as these happen?

Is it an exercise expelling some internal discord?

Naran

We always want harmony, love and peace.

But we don’t know how to get when we are denied or when are rejected.

Life simply follows physical law.

If you throw a ball on the wall, it rebounds and comes back to you with the same force.

Our thoughts and emotions are like balls thrown at the opposite person.

When we refuse to forgive, we will not be forgiven.

Send a forgiving note you will get back the same.

Send ball of love, which will be returned to you as the ball of love.

Do and do, till we get the same love back.

Relationship Mantras

http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/06/11/relationship-mantras/

Increase Your Attraction Factor

http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2012/01/20/increase-your-attraction/

Love Enters When Anger Exits

http://dare2doit.wordpress.com/2009/06/19/signature-confidence/

Say good-bye to lover of your past

http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2011/06/16/say-good-bye-to-lover-of-your-past/

Harmony with Husband

http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2012/05/18/good-communication-and-understanding/