My fiancé’s anger destroys my patience and love. He is comparing me with the others. Really I want peace regarding my relationship. I want his love, caring and his urge to call me by his own.
Sometimes, I feel god give me some magical key to handle him and he starts to love me, my family and respect all of us.
Tap with the following statement 3 times on each point: “Even though I am frustrated, I find the magical key to handle him”.
Do it daily and as many times as possible.
The Universal Lover: http://wp.me/p3eYWi-U
ADVANTAGE Acceptance: http://wp.me/pwblL-D
When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.
Please explain how to do rule exercise
Let us say you want to achieve harmony in your life.
The first step is to release all the hurdles that are inside you, which prevent s you from creating harmony.
Affirm the following statements as many times as possible, which helps you to remove disharmony from your life. Without removing it, you cannot create harmony in your relationships:
I release any memory that prevents my harmony
I release every thought that prevents my harmony
I release my memory of blaming that prevents my harmony
I release the memory, which prevents my getting of love and affection
I release the thought that I lack love and affection
I release my memories of reject and disapproval
I release all my desires for approval
I release my memory of my anger to be in a state of love
I release my thought of blaming to be in a state of love and peace
I release the memory that I am misunderstood
I release the thought that I am misunderstood
I release the memory of my being criticized
I release the thought that I am criticized
I release the memory of attracting unkind, unloving people
I release the thought I am with unloving people
I release the memory that keeps me (in) hostility
I release every memory that prevents my state of love
I release the thought that prevents my state of love
After successfully completing the first step, do the second step which will help you to create harmony: https://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/
Why do things such as these happen?
Is it an exercise expelling some internal discord?
We always want harmony, love and peace.
But we don’t know how to get when we are denied or when are rejected.
Life simply follows physical law.
If you throw a ball on the wall, it rebounds and comes back to you with the same force.
Our thoughts and emotions are like balls thrown at the opposite person.
When we refuse to forgive, we will not be forgiven.
Send a forgiving note you will get back the same.
Send ball of love, which will be returned to you as the ball of love.
Do and do, till we get the same love back.