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HELP

I had a misunderstanding with someone I love very much, and due to my arrogance this person didn’t come to meet me. We normally meet every day. How can I save my relationship with this person and strengthen it.

Naran

Help others without arrogance. Do the forgiving exercise

HELP

As per your instruction, I did the forgiving exercise 7 X 108 times. I also personally asked for the forgiveness and now I am forgiven.

From the ‘I Love Myself” Workbook

How to manifest divine love in all your relationships?

  1. Forgive, thank and love all your relationships.
  2. You may be in conflict with your relative today but may not have an aversion about them tomorrow.
  3. Do not carry the conflict for tomorrow. The reason for today’s conflict should not be present for tomorrow’s conflict. Tomorrow when you have a conflict again, do not use all the words which you used today, and do not bring this scene then.
  4. After every fight and quarrel, just thank all the quarrels. When you thank them you will find a world of difference, the very next day.
  5. Also thank the person who fought with you.
  6. After the conflict is over, use appreciative words for that person (mentally) and then forgive them.

How to maintain your level of intimacy

When can you get what you want in a relationship?

All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.

In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.

When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get.  There will not be any dejection.

How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?

When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.

Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.

Then like starts yielding to dislike.

However, this is not expressed but suppressed.  This continues until it becomes resentment.

How you destroy the foundation of love?

You become angry.

Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.

Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.

You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.

Verbally you attack.

Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.

Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.

Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.

Resolving these destructive tendencies

If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

  • AGRIMONY for open communication
  • BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
  • WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
  • WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
  • CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
  • HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
  • CHICORY to give and not to force one

Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.

How can I manage without him?

Lesson: Our life is repeated every 12/18/30 years

Radha

I am a widow and have a son who is studying in college. I am managing the business started by my husband, without any help from relatives and friends.

However, as we are expanding our business for the last six months, I sought the help of my elder brother, who graciously offered his hand for help.

Unfortunately, last two weeks, he is affected by some serious illness and he is in sick-bed. I don’t know how I am going to manage without him?

Naran

Have you ever been in this type of situation before, where you used the same words, “How I am going to manage without him?”

Radha

Yes I did, when my husband passed away 12 years back. He was the sole runner of our family business, while I was looking after the home affairs.

Naran

Then what happened.

Radha

I took over the business and to everybody’s surprise, including me, I did manage successfully.

Naran

In the same way, you will be able to manage without your brother. I am not suggesting that you have to do away with your brother.

You heal the incidents happened 12 years back and make your feelings, thoughts, beliefs whole and complete.

  1. Heal your husband by putting his memories – unfulfilled desires and expectations, Illness, etc.
  2. Heal his death as mentioned in the past-life-healing manual.
  3. Heal all your money affairs – follow the abundance steps.
  4. As an attitude of gratitude, heal the illness of your brother, by putting his illness in the triangle.

Good Luck in your new business ventures!!!

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