Author Archives: Naran S Balakumar
Life is not a war to win or lose
Naran:
Don’t see anything outside. See within.
Address your emotions. The same emotional state will bring the same results outside. Without changing your state of mind, you cannot affect an iota of change outside in anybody.
Only higher emotions like forgiveness, love will help you.
Your present emotional state, every second alters – your inside chemistry and your nervous breakdown vindicates that.
When do our nerves (communication channel) break down? When you ignore the message of the body? You have a nervous breakdown because you are unable to bear what is happening around you.
But your body wants you “to bear”, to endure”. Endurance only will bring in what you want.
Having vengeance will bring in more vengeance. Having hatred will make others hate you more.
“Can they not be taught a lesson?” This thought will teach “you” a lesson.
“Will they not change?” The body asks back to you, “Will you not change?”
Mohana
16 months back my husband and me had been separated.
There is no legal divorce yet. He does not see me at all and says he will never come back. I am in great agony because of this. Is there any chanting that can help for him and the lady free themselves from their entanglement?
Naran asked me to write “TOGETHER DIVINE” daily for 56 times.
he also asked me to chant “ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW” as many times as possible.
he continued,” Chant as many times as possible, anytime, anywhere, silently or loudly.
Do the forgiving exercise for the lady involved with your husband.
Making the right choice
AF
Whenever I chant SCLERANTHUS, I don’t feel interested in my guy. What does that indicate? I don’t have feelings to talk to that person.
Naran
Scleranthus: the mind is in two modes; one part of her loves him; but the other part does not love him or wanting to be away from him.
The right part is activated but unfortunately, she did not analyse; instead of analyzing she fears the flower remedy.
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Magic key to handle your beloved
Simran
My fiancé’s anger destroys my patience and love. He is comparing me with the others. Really I want peace regarding my relationship. I want his love, caring and his urge to call me by his own.
Sometimes, I feel god give me some magical key to handle him and he starts to love me, my family and respect all of us.
Naran
Tap with the following statement 3 times on each point: “Even though I am frustrated, I find the magical key to handle him”.
Do it daily and as many times as possible.
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Have seen good difference with chanting
Sal
I met a guy on matrimonial site and since then we have become good friends. He is unable to feel any emotions for anybody.
As what I understand, he had to take care of his family financially from an early age. His parents did not have a good marriage and he saw a lot of fights between them.
He loved only one girl but she used him and got married and he is unable to forget her and move on. He likes me but because the way he feels, he does not think he will ever marry.
Pls let me know how I can do anything on his behalf.
Naran
Help yourself.
Chant “I release my desire to change anybody”.
In addition, chant, “I OPEN to the LOVE, BEAUTY, GRACE of the DIVINE”.
Sal (after two weeks)
Thank you. I have seen good difference with my chanting. The person has become more open for accepting new.
Also, I feel better myself and happy.
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Afraid to Re-Unite
GKD
I and my girlfriend had a common friend whom I wanted to meet and seek some help. But for some unknown reason, I was afraid to meet her and tell my problems.
You suggested me to chant – “I RELEASE ALL THOUGHTS PREVENTING ME FROM RE-UNITING WITH HER. I THANK HER FOR REUNITING WITH ME”.
After chanting this for about 5-7 days (and also writing it for 21 times), I felt like contacting this common friend for help. Earlier, some unknown fear was preventing me from contacting this common friend.
I met this common friend yesterday and she assured me all help / cooperation in re-uniting us.
Naran
Continue the same.
For most of the people who want re-union green is the lacking color. Download two pictures of gem EMERALD. Keep one in your pocket and the other under your pillow.
Explanation
- When something doesn’t happen after making several attempts – both personal and healing actions, it means something is inside you that prevents or blocks you from getting the results you want. So GKD was asked to release those thoughts.
- He was asked to thank in advance for what is going to happen in the future. For anything you want to happen, do this.
- Emerald helps us to bond and connect with our beloved ones. Please check this link, “Binding People Together”: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/binding-people-together/
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Sending Love
MT
It’s a very wonderful article – “Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others”: http://wp.me/ptUDl-6A.
How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?
Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?
Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset? They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!
How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?
Naran
In any healing, one should think about oneself only.
One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.
Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.
How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?
Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.
What do I want? I want harmony in the family.
How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?
Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?
How can I get harmony?
How will I change to get harmony?
Why can’t I solve it?
How could I make this harmony possible?
What is required to have harmony?
MT
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!
Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?
Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?
Pls help me to understand sending love means what?
Naran
Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.
Make your relationship a happy one
Referring the article: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2012/11/07/release-your-spouse-qualities/
Kishore
You made my day with the process of RELEASING my OWN Attitude, which I noted as BAD in My wife. Now I trust that when my attitude changes, it impacts my wife and changes it similarly.
Please tell me HOW long one should chant on each attitude in the given day and how long we could see the Change both in me and my wife too.
Naran
Do it, till you find change in her.
Jackpot
I am having a relationship. He is nice though from other community. Now, his family is fixing his marriage and he is not having that guts to tell them no for that and accept me. I got angry.
But after reading this article, I realized that 5 months before I had done the same with him and asked him to leave me. How can I follow this process now? And can two people of opposite religion live happy together with divine grace?
Naran
Making a relationship a happy one is in our hands. Finding a relationship is in divine hands.
Jackpot
Can I do anything to release what I had done? I agree with you that happiness is in our hand. At least we can pray to divine to make us lovable n understanding?
Naran
Be lovable and understanding. Cultivate it. Giving love without expecting anything in return makes one lovable.
Swarna
Can we do this for all situations, especially in social and in situations where we have issues communicating with people we work with? This seems to be feeling-based. I am asking about communicating. Both are the same at one level. So, can we do this release chant?
Naran
Yes you can do. The Bach flower Remedy (here Chicory is used) will change the mental state.
If you can’t identify the name of the flower, just say, without the flower name. For example, “I release my possessive nature”.
I am forgiven
HELP
I had a misunderstanding with someone I love very much, and due to my arrogance this person didn’t come to meet me. We normally meet every day. How can I save my relationship with this person and strengthen it.
Naran
Help others without arrogance. Do the forgiving exercise
HELP
As per your instruction, I did the forgiving exercise 7 X 108 times. I also personally asked for the forgiveness and now I am forgiven.
From the ‘I Love Myself” Workbook
How to manifest divine love in all your relationships?
- Forgive, thank and love all your relationships.
- You may be in conflict with your relative today but may not have an aversion about them tomorrow.
- Do not carry the conflict for tomorrow. The reason for today’s conflict should not be present for tomorrow’s conflict. Tomorrow when you have a conflict again, do not use all the words which you used today, and do not bring this scene then.
- After every fight and quarrel, just thank all the quarrels. When you thank them you will find a world of difference, the very next day.
- Also thank the person who fought with you.
- After the conflict is over, use appreciative words for that person (mentally) and then forgive them.
Together Relationship 