My fiancé’s anger destroys my patience and love. He is comparing me with the others. Really I want peace regarding my relationship. I want his love, caring and his urge to call me by his own.
Sometimes, I feel god give me some magical key to handle him and he starts to love me, my family and respect all of us.
Tap with the following statement 3 times on each point: “Even though I am frustrated, I find the magical key to handle him”.
Do it daily and as many times as possible.
The Universal Lover: http://wp.me/p3eYWi-U
ADVANTAGE Acceptance: http://wp.me/pwblL-D
I and my girlfriend had a common friend whom I wanted to meet and seek some help. But for some unknown reason, I was afraid to meet her and tell my problems.
You suggested me to chant – “I RELEASE ALL THOUGHTS PREVENTING ME FROM RE-UNITING WITH HER. I THANK HER FOR REUNITING WITH ME”.
After chanting this for about 5-7 days (and also writing it for 21 times), I felt like contacting this common friend for help. Earlier, some unknown fear was preventing me from contacting this common friend.
I met this common friend yesterday and she assured me all help / cooperation in re-uniting us.
Continue the same.
For most of the people who want re-union green is the lacking color. Download two pictures of gem EMERALD. Keep one in your pocket and the other under your pillow.
- When something doesn’t happen after making several attempts – both personal and healing actions, it means something is inside you that prevents or blocks you from getting the results you want. So GKD was asked to release those thoughts.
- He was asked to thank in advance for what is going to happen in the future. For anything you want to happen, do this.
- Emerald helps us to bond and connect with our beloved ones. Please check this link, “Binding People Together”: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/binding-people-together/
Shed the ego: http://wp.me/p3dhkD-1V
It’s a very wonderful article – “Relationship with Your Parents = Relationship with Others”: http://wp.me/ptUDl-6A.
How can we have good relationships with in-laws? Why always there is some insecurity, disharmony in this relationship?
Parents of a girl and parents of a boy, both should be treated equally. After all both are parents. If one be grateful for his/her parents, does the relationship with in-laws will also improve?
Why after marriage of a son, parents get usually upset? They start seeing faults, blaming son and daughter-in-law even for small things. How one can be perfect this much? Even son and daughter-in-law may have same feeling for them!
How both can have normal relationship (unconditional) with each other?
In any healing, one should think about oneself only.
One should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving love or being blamed or criticized.
Expecting others to behave as per our wish will not work because each one is different – each one’s background, learning, upbringing, views and opinions are totally different. Only opposites are attracted to be in one place, so that we learn the art of living in co-existence within a family.
How to change oneself by asking some relevant questions?
Where am I now? There is disharmony in the family.
What do I want? I want harmony in the family.
How do I maintain this problem? Or how do I contribute – my thoughts, my opinions, and my behavior, to this disharmony?
Or what is in me that maintains this disharmony?
How can I get harmony?
How will I change to get harmony?
Why can’t I solve it?
How could I make this harmony possible?
What is required to have harmony?
You said that one should give love irrespective of whether he is receiving or being blamed or criticized. That is fine!
Sending love means what? Is it always thinking well about in-laws, parents, loved ones or is it seeing good in them or is it always to say “yes” to them, whatever they expect from me?
Are we allowed to express ourselves in harmless way, when I don’t like something or don’t want do certain things or wanted to do in another way? Or sending love means being kind with them?
Pls help me to understand sending love means what?
Ask these questions to yourself and you will get the answer.
Patient: My wife loves me a lot. She is a very considerate person. At the same time, when it comes to my way of doing, she is highly intolerant. Surprisingly, she tolerates others’ mistakes to a greater extent – this includes my parent’s actions too.
One part of her is tolerant, while the other part of her is intolerant – especially to you. It shows, somehow you trigger the other – unwanted part in her.
Do you have a similar behavior in yourself?
Patient: Yeah! In general, I always tend to correct the way of others and not just one person. I believe everything has to be done correctly, with the right people, and at the right time.
I will teach you a simple method here.
Affirm as many times as possible:
“I RELEASE the PART of ME that is criticized by her”.
IRELEASE THE PART OF ME that makes her criticise me.
“I OPEN ALIGN WITH the PART of ME that evokes her tolerance to PRAISE me”.
You can write them too.
The letters in UPPER CASE is fixed. The rest of the statement, you can fill with whatever you want. This way, you are releasing the behavior you don’t want and activating the behavior you want in others.
Now, don’t ask me any questions, how it works. Come to my class on Oct 19th, to shoot your questions there: http://wp.me/p31KXo-1Y
Is there is any mantra by which we can reunite two people by calming down their anger?
My sis-in-law and my father are having a terrible problem. They don’t want to listen about each other. Due to that the whole family is unable to speak to them. But I want to solve this problem.
On the contrary I don’t say both of them are ready to leave their ego because they don’t like to listen to anyone to shed their anger and ego for each of them.
So pls give me some mantra so that I can chant on behalf of both of them and reunite them miraculously.
Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”
When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter in to any relationship to expecting something in the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person does seem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.
Please explain how to do rule exercise
Let us say you want to achieve harmony in your life.
The first step is to release all the hurdles that are inside you, which prevent s you from creating harmony.
Affirm the following statements as many times as possible, which helps you to remove disharmony from your life. Without removing it, you cannot create harmony in your relationships:
I release any memory that prevents my harmony
I release every thought that prevents my harmony
I release my memory of blaming that prevents my harmony
I release the memory, which prevents my getting of love and affection
I release the thought that I lack love and affection
I release my memories of reject and disapproval
I release all my desires for approval
I release my memory of my anger to be in a state of love
I release my thought of blaming to be in a state of love and peace
I release the memory that I am misunderstood
I release the thought that I am misunderstood
I release the memory of my being criticized
I release the thought that I am criticized
I release the memory of attracting unkind, unloving people
I release the thought I am with unloving people
I release the memory that keeps me (in) hostility
I release every memory that prevents my state of love
I release the thought that prevents my state of love
After successfully completing the first step, do the second step which will help you to create harmony: https://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/